It is unfortunate that one of the reactions to M-M is an inability to see any situation or happening in other than a bad light and to take any setback, however minor, as a personal affront or defeat. Nothing is quite what it should be or what you believe righteously it should be.
Without realizing what is happening many men complain privately and publicly at every turn and it is not until someone, a relative or friend, quite likely in ill-humour, points it out that they then notice how they are behaving. (Often they will believe their complaints are well justified nonetheless.)
Of course there is a lot in normal everyday life to complain about but it is difficult for anyone to be with a man who constantly grumbles and who appears impossible to please or permanently in a moaning mood. Around him tempers fray easily and people are inclined to shy away, short on sympathy. The sad fact is the more he complains the more likely he is to be disturbed by M-M and the more his emotional equilibrium is at risk.
If you are in a complaining phase and must complain, do so only about major issues or when complaint is fully justified. World affairs, politics or taxation seem acceptable areas and so possibly are occasions of faulty laundry service or restaurant food that is bad. But if you feel you must complain about your boss or about how badly your lover is treating you make sure you complain to someone with a sympathetic ear (who has not heard your complaints before) and permanently avoid complaining about how badly life is treating you.
As all therapists would advise, stop demanding sympathy. Get out and start trying to make the alterations you want to your life as it is your responsibility alone to sort out your life to your satisfaction. A man who complains incessantly is a bore, not sympathetic.
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