It is also obvious, from any of the definitions, that premature ejaculation is usually only of concern to a man whose relationship with his partner is a sharing one and who wants to help her have as much sexual pleasure as he is having. If a man’s socio-cultural background is a male-dominated one, in which no sharing sexual relationship is expected, or wanted, and in which his own sexual satisfaction, by orgasm, is the sole criterion of sexual enjoy-ment, he will perceive no problem; nor will his partner. In such cases, sex-play is brief, or absent, communication is unusual, sexual intercourse urgent, brief, and ejaculation is rapid. It is an example of the ‘wham, bam, thank you, ma’am’ pattern of sexual behaviour.
In such sexual (and marital) partnerships, a double standard of sexuality is usual. The woman may have been told that this is what she should expect in sex. Or she may be so sexually unstimulated that she welcomes her partner’s quick ejaculation as rapid relief from a resented ‘duty’ expected by her partner, irrespective of her feelings. This resentment is aggravated if, after ejaculating, the man rolls off his recumbent partner without offering any tender exchange of words, and falls asleep, snoring, next to a resentful woman, who is wide awake.
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