I knew I would pay for it. I masturbated when I was a kid and I continued it into marriage. Now I just don’t enjoy sex. This is my punishment, I guess.

HUSBAND

This man guesses wrong. Masturbation cannot cause any trouble for anyone unless it is engaged in against one’s own moral sanctions. It is an excellent educational opportunity, can lead to intense orgasms and a degree of psychasms through imagery, and is one way to develop sexual comfort and sexual self-esteem.

One problem, though, is that men tend to masturbate incorrectly. They try to get it done quickly, and their posture, technique, process, timing, and stimulation are all wrong. It does not train them for interaction with a partner but rather to “get off” or to “get rid of tension.” For men and women, masturbation offers an excellent opportunity for learning about the body, but may end up teaching a lesson of guilt, hurriedness, and secretiveness about sex.

The fact is that masturbation is separate from other forms of sexual behavior. It is not something that is done because you don’t have a partner, because you can’t find a partner, or because it must be done to be “good at sex.” It is not something that means that sex with your partner is not as good as it should be. Masturbation is one form of sexual stimulation, and if it is an option chosen with comfort and a sense of self-enhancement, it is generally helpful to sexuality in all areas of life. If you don’t masturbate, it means one thing: You don’t masturbate. It is not a sign of a hang-up or deficiency. It is no big deal unless we make it so. It probably gets too much good press and too much bad press, and it needs much more truth in advertising. It is a human sexual option.

Masturbation, or at least pleasurable self-exploration, can teach much about the F and R areas (and the G and Ñ areas in women). It can teach about the types of orgasm, about psychasms. But it teaches nothing but negative lessons if you feel badly about yourself for doing it.

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This is another critical point in fasting. You can ruin most of your achievement, if you subject your body to a food shock. Your sub-conscious mind may not believe you the next time you fast. Without realising it, you may train it to expect a shock, rather than work spontaneously and purify itself with maximum efficiency.

Your body is now pure. Your mind developed in many directions. Treat them both with care and attention.

In the first day of breaking the fast,

start by eating small quantities of liquid food. Try to treat your body as that of a newly born baby.

Eating one spoon of natural yoghurt (no flavours !!!) is a good start. Include fresh fruit, but chew it very intensely. Eat very small quantities (baby size), but do so quite frequently, every hour or two for example. Squeezing fresh fruit juices and nectars will provide you with an excellent food. Continue drinking at least 2-3 litres of water. You may add honey to the (lukewarm) water if you wish.

Some experiences felt on the first day can be quite memorable. After fasting, you are very sensitive and your instincts are very sharp. Not only you will find food to taste differently. To your surprise you may discover some ordinary food like bread to be more toxic than others (natural yoghurt for example), especially if you take it as your first bit of food after fasting. The sensation after swallowing the first bite of such food can be compared to the one you experience after having an alcoholic drink. The major difference is that such a sensation lasts only a few seconds.

Do not eat anything in the evening. Drink water, with honey if you like.

In the second day of breaking fast,

Eat little, mostly in a liquid form. Cooked oats, semolina and other cereals, natural yoghurts are OK. Eat fruits several times a day. Drink at least 2-3 litres of pure water. Do not eat meat, fish or eggs.

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